Have you ever received exactly what you prayed for and found yourself asking, “Now what?”

Did you know there is a term for that “Now what?” feeling? As it turns out, the arrival fallacy (or what I like to call “Now What? Syndrome”) is a term used to describe the feelings of emptiness, confusion, or disappointment people experience after reaching a major goal or milestone.

It’s that moment when you achieve what you’ve been working (or praying) for, but instead of feeling fulfilled, you find yourself stuck thinking, “Is this all there is?”

This can also happen when you set your sights so intently on something, you never considered what would be next.

For me, I had achieved such a big milestone in adopting children that I never considered what would come after. And for some that can feel of paralyzing. This happens commonly to newlyweds, graduates, new parents and retirees too.

Such big transitions (though positive) can leave people with a loss of purpuse, depression or an identity crisis. If there is a name for the ‘arrival fallacy,’ then we better start talking about it.

Whether it’s a career milestone, earning an award, or winning a gold medal, I’ve learned is that our valleys can feel like peaks with God and our peaks can feel like valleys without God.

We need God just as much in our highs as we do in our lows and it takes humility to realize that.

God is greater than the hills and the valleys. It’s a truth that people write songs about, but mostly people sing those lyrics as reminders of the strength of God through their valleys. After all, “God is greater than my cancer diagnosis” has more weight than “God is greater than my promotion at work.”

Unfortunately it’s when we are in the peak seasons of life that it’s easiest to forget about God. It’s second nature to cry out to God in times of desperation, but all too easy to forget God when we are on the mountaintop (especially if we  believed that the mountaintop experience would fulfill us).

God is the only one who can fill that chasm.  When we try to fill our souls with achievements and milestones, it’s like trying to fill the Grand Canyon with a squirt gun. It doesn’t mean we don’t continue to reach for goals, but it does mean we need the constant reminder that our soul’s satisfaction can never be found in the gift but in the Giver.

One of my mentors once said, “You were never meant to live on the mountaintop because there is no vegetation there.” What I came to realize is that there was no vegetation there, because I lost my desperation. It took the emptiness of my disordered love to drive me back to my desperate need for God.

Your answer to that prayer was never meant to fill you; only God can do that. As you allow the mountaintops to drive you closer to God, you will find Him to revive your soul. 

“You will show me the way of life, granting me the Joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever” (Psalm 16:11).

Adapted from But I Prayed for This: What to Do When Living in God’s Yes Is Harder Than You Expected by Melissa Miller (Nelson Books, August 18, 2026). Used with permission.

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